K is one of my best friends in NY. Imagine a 6-foot-tall modelesque tough-as-nails black girl. And imagine her dating a guy 20 years older and about 4 inches shorter. And then imagine her completely walking all over him and him thinking that his purpose in life is to serve her.* K's awesome!
Anyway, K has a great piece of advice:
"If you have to ask your friends about a pair of shoes [or a guy], then it [he] is probably not worth keeping."